I Empower Myself

Forgiveness…what it is? Why we should not? Why we should? (part 5)

Yljien — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 01:01:41 +0000

We process negative emotions so we get to the feelings of love. When we feel love in our hearts we forgive. We process negative emotions so the love of others can enter our hearts. So long as we have repressed or suppressed negative emotions in our hearts, we are blocking the love and care of others. We do not see and feel the love of others. We do not feel self-love. We do not see and feel the love and care of our Great Creator.

Now that we processed the negative emotions…what comes next is the forgiving part. Why we need to forgive? Why we should forgive?

We do not have to like or befriend the person who wronged us. We release them from our system.

We forgive the person who wronged us to cut his power…to de-empower him or her. Like attract like. The more we think of the person who wronged us and the harm he/she inflicted on us the more we attract or magnetized the experiences…the more we are going to feel it or have it. So, to stop it is to not think it and not feel it.

We forgive to save or spare other people from becoming or getting hurt by the person who wronged us. And, stop the ecology of hurting-people-hurt-people. The abuse becomes the abuser. If more people are done wrong the more negative emotions will come out and more negative energies will be in the atmosphere.

We forgive the person who wronged us so he/she could process his/her own negative emotions. So he/she could feel self-love and accept and receive the love of others. We help the person to heal his/her self. We help him/her to stop acting out or venting out.

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Forgiveness…what it is? Why we should not? Why we should? (part 4)

Yljien — Sat, 17 Jul 2010 01:01:50 +0000

Another process of healing negative emotions is thru writing. We write a letter to the person who wronged us. It is not necessarily mean that we need to send the letter to the person. Our objective is we express the negative emotions so it will not be pushed down or repressed. In writing the letter, we must express the feelings of anger, sadness, fear, regret and love. Process all these emotions. Vent them in a letter.

To start the letter writing, here are some lead-in phrases:

For Anger: I don’t like it … I feel frustrated…I am angry that… I feel annoyed… I want…
For Sadness: I feel disappointed … I am sad that … I feel hurt … I wanted … I want…
For Fear: I feel worried… I feel scared… I do not want… I need… I want…
For Regret: I feel embarrassed … I am sorry … I feel ashamed … I didn’t want…
For Love: I love … I want… I understand… I forgive… I appreciate… I thank you for… I know…

Write in the above-mentioned order:…anger…sadness…fear…regret…love.

Why we need to process all these emotions?
Mere exploring a part of our feelings does not bring about desired healing. Feeling anger only will may make us more angry. The more we dwell on just anger, the more upset we will become. Crying only may just leave us feeling empty and spent and sad. To feel the fears will just make us feel more fearful. Feeling sorry will just make us feel guilty and ashamed and/or harm our self-esteem. Trying to feel loving will force us to suppress or repress the negative emotions, and after a few years, we will become numb and unfeeling.

To be continued…

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Forgiveness…what it is? Why we should not? Why we should? (part 3)

Yljien — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 01:01:16 +0000

Now! Tell me must we forgive?

My answer will be YES. But before we do the forgiving we must heal ourselves first. Negative emotions are wounds in our emotional system. Like wounds, they must be given attention and cured too. How do we do that? Physical wounds are treated with medicines and bandages. How do we treat emotional wounds? Treating emotional wounds are the specialty of psychologists and/or psychiatrists. So, it is only right to consult them and ask help from them.

How do we heal? The reality is when the wounded part is force to do something it hurts and pains more. Let the wounded part process and heal. Give time and let it undergo a healing process. Once the wounds are healed, most of the time the wounded person comes out better. This is the nature of wounds and healing.

As advice by mental and emotional health care professionals, emotional healing starts when the wronged person feel the anger, then the grief and sorrow, then the love and forgiving.

Feel your anger. Let yourself become angry. Process the anger. How? Stand in front of a punching bag. Imagine the punching bag as the person who wronged you. Feel the anger and negative emotions you have for the person. Think why you feel negatively towards the person. Tell out loud the reasons why and punch and hit the punching bag until you get exhausted or until you feel all of the negative energy coming out of your mind, of your heart, of your body, of your self. Most of those who did this they feel grief and sorrow are coming out also. Bitterness and resentment are coming out too. Let yourself feel those, negative emotions and negative energies must come out. Let your emotional system be cleansed. Feel the feelings of sadness, fear, regret until you feel the love coming out.

To be continued…

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Forgiveness…what it is? Why we should not? Why we should? (part 2)

Yljien — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 01:01:23 +0000

There is this so-called “repressed emotions.” It started during childhood …they are the negative emotions we pushed down to the very bottom of our hearts and as we grow older whenever we feel negative emotions, most of the time, we keep on pushing down or repressing the emotions. We do not know what to do with it. No one teach us what needs to be done with the emotions. We just accept the standard advice, whenever we feel angry, forgive and forget.

Is really forgiving and forgetting the answer?

All or most of us followed and did the advice…we strived to forgive and forget.

But what happened to me, to you, to us afterwards? Why do we feel more anger, more pain, more bitterness, more resentment and other more negative emotions when we are faced again with similar situation which causes us the anger or pain or negative emotions the first time we felt them.

Forgiving and forgetting did not heal us. It made us repressed the negative emotions. It made us act out more and more. In some, we see people who can not control even themselves. They are eaten up or consumed by anger and hatred. We see people become wasted.

We short cut the process of healing the negative emotions. Notice this! Psychologists, therapists and mental health practitioners always ask what happened in the beginning when treating a patient. They are going back to the very first experiences when we had them. Why? Because those very first negative emotions we experienced are not healed just repressed and became bigger and bigger as the years roll by.

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Forgiveness…what it is? Why we should not? Why we should? (part 1)

Yljien — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 01:01:10 +0000

I am writing this article to remind me of the days I found forgiveness in my heart because there are days when I am consumed or gripped by anger and bitterness again and again.

How I found it? Why I forgave? Why I did not forgive?

When someone wronged us, it is natural that we feel anger or resentment towards the person who caused us such feelings and emotions. We also often hear that we should forgive those who did us wrong whatever the gravity of wrongdoing to us. They say it is the right thing to do and that is what God expects of us. They say we should forgive because of this and that…

In my life experiences, I meet people who did me wrong. Some did slight offending things and some really damaged my morals…some really made my world turn upside down.

What I felt…I feel fuming…I feel hurt…I feel pain…I feel bitterness…I feel resentment…I find it hard to forgive…it is hard for me to release the anger and the other emotions that goes with it…no matter how hard I try I find myself always falling into the pit of anger and hatred…more and more anger and hatred are rising up…flowing out like a lava…

I want to understand why I am feeling all these emotions…why are they coming out endlessly…why come out in particular situation…it is as if a lock is opened…it is like the gate of hell is unlocked.

Because I am asking why…I began invading the bookstores’ self-help and psychology sections…I began researching about this so-called EQ or Emotional Intelligence.

I learned a lot.

To be continued…

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ABCs of Health & Beauty : D (continuation)

Yljien — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 01:01:41 +0000

Dreams serve a purpose every night. There are many kinds of dreams serving many purposes. What kind do you have?

Psychological? Subconscious dreams release the pressure from your minds due to the trauma and stress of the day. They may include pent-up fears locked up in the deep recesses of your mind as far back as infancy/childhood.

Clairvoyant dreams are prophetic in nature. They give you an inkling of the future.

Wish fulfillment dreams are expressions of dreams come true, our longings realized in the dream state that hope for manifestation in the waking state.

Not everyone can remember their dreams. It is better if we could remember our dreams. Dreams can give us advice or insights. Dreams can help us in our everyday living. It can solve problems or give answer to the questions in our minds.

How to remember your dreams?

To remember our dream, before sleeping, give your subconscious mind instructions to remember a dream. Say to yourself : ” I want to have a dream. I want to remember my dream. I am going to remember my dream. “ Keep repeating these sentences to yourself until you fall asleep. In the morning once you wake up, write down what you remember in your dream. So, better to keep a dream journal in your bedside.

The Four Ds guidelines for those who wish to embark on a healthy lifestyle:

Desire: You must desire to be healthy, you must want it to happen for you now. Not yesterday, but today.

Dedication: Once you have embraced your desire, you should commit yourself to achieving your goal.

Discipline: Dedication with discipline will ensure your success. You must learn to police yourself.

Delight: A guaranteed high to those who have achieved their goals. You will love yourself better.

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ABCs of Health & Beauty : D (continuation)

Yljien — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 01:01:46 +0000

Diet your way to a healthier life. While most understand the meaning of diet, in today’s language it actually means eating lifestyle, a more positive and proactive term. The word diet has negative connotations, because most people think it is synonymous to denial. What it actually means, in the eating lifestyle connotation, is eating only the food that is good for you.

Be wary of diet fads or quick weight-loss programs. Anything that promises instant results automatically ensures instant gain in the end.

A good diet plan is one that is gentle to the body (sans use of chemicals or drugs of unknown origin) and guarantees results on a medium to long-term basis. Before you try any diet plan, consult your physician.

Fight Depression and chase the blues away. Depression is a condition of the mind, and now, they say also of the spirit which plunges a person into bouts of sadness, antisocial behavior, withdrawal and inactivity. This affliction can disturb the natural harmony between the body and the mind. And did you know that depressed people invite physical illness? Depression puts you on a negative mode and it attracts for you a host of problems, sickness being one of them. This could be triggered by a fluctuation of hormones (as in menopause), emotional and mental stress, taking a new medication incompatible with your system, etc. Before you diagnose yourself as certified depressed, try eliminate the reasons for the condition.

Acknowledge it for what it is. If you have to wallow in self-pity for a few days, do it. Flow with your pain but give yourself a deadline for suffering. Then, do something about your problem by undergoing therapy or simply talking to a wise person or a confidante. Take up a new sport or hobby. Do charity work. Helping others is good medicine for the soul. It will certainly lift up your spirits.

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ABCs of Health & Beauty : D

Yljien — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 01:01:28 +0000

Detoxification or detox for short is a process of cleansing the body through a series of food and body care treatments. It is a regimen one can adopt to rid the body of toxins. Our bodies can have toxic buildup due to pollution, improper diet, smoking, alcohol consumption, ingestion of preservatives, additives in processed foods, food poisoning, etc. There are many ways to detoxify the body: exercise, massage, diet and fasting. Here are two detox programs you can try:

Detox 1: Fasting

Fasting is the withdrawal of food from our bodies. This gives our stomachs a rest from all the abuse it has received in the past.
The 24-hour fast includes the ingestion of 8-10 glasses of water and 8 glasses of apple or buko juice and 6 cups of fasting tea every 30 minutes. End the fast with a tablespoon of extra virgin olive oil and a light vegetable broth after. You may want to have an enema* after. Break your fast gently with fruits and vegetables and a light meal the next day. Don not attempt to fast without medical supervision.

*Coffee Enema: Mix the organic coffee in a pot of boiling water. Boil for 5 minutes. Strain twice with a cotton cloth or hanky. Administer the warm solution in the anus, but not before lubricating it and the enema nozzle with castor oil or petroleum jelly. Hold for 5 minutes, then release. Use up the solution in 3 equal parts.

Detox 2: Vegetarian

Eat as much fresh veggies and fruits (except avocado, mango, and grapes which are high in fat and sugar) the whole day. Take 10-12 glasses of water within 24 hours.

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ABCs of Beauty & Health: C (continuation)

Yljien — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 01:01:26 +0000

Taking care of colon:

Colonics is a series of cleansing treatments for the bowels. The idea is to unclog and expel all the toxins that have been building up in your colon due to a poor diet and/or abuse. If your bowel movement is sluggish, you could very well have a toxic build-up which if expelled can compromise your immune system and eventually lead to illness. There are qualified colonics clinics that can give you the treatment require. While home treatment can be done, done not proceed without medical supervision.

Also, there are food supplements or herbal products which can clean/cleanse our digestive system. Personally, I am using shake off of Edmark, Aloe Vera Gel of Forever Living, RGGL or Reishi Gano and Ganoderma Lucidum capsules of DXN and/or Live Tibicos Mushroom. I am using them alternatively and they have great effect in me.

Have you ever wonder that colors can affect our mood? That’s why there is the so-called Color Therapy.

Color Therapy can change our moods and outlook on things or in life.

When we feel sad, wearing something blue or violet will help eliminate our sadness.

For our tiredness, colors red or orange will help us remove tiredness.

Angry? Try wearing green or white.

Feeling lonely? Pink will help.

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ABCs of Beauty & Health: C (continuation)

Yljien — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 01:01:32 +0000

Constipation is a result of a poor diet, lack of water, fiber and exercise. Want an idea of how much bowel you must relieve? Three meals a day plus snacks in between and you only move once a day. Multiply that by seven days, that’s 21 and you only moved seven times a week. Get the picture?

If your constipation problem is severe, use an enema for immediate relief. You can buy an enema kit in the drugstore. Improve your diet by adding more fiber to it.

Cleansing Enema

You’ll need a pot of warm distilled or mineral water and the juice of half a lemon. Line on side and administer the enema in three parts (1/3 of the contents at a time). Try to hold the contents for as long as you can. Relax for five minutes in between insertions. Use a lubricant like castor oil or petroleum jelly for easy insertion.

Aloe Relief

Get a piece of aloe vera, skin removed. Blend it with your favorite juice or plain water in the blender. Drink daily. This helps loosen your bowels

Oil Rub

Rub warm castor oil for tree nights over your tummy before bedtime. Then alternate with olive oil for three nights, followed by castor oil again for the next three nights. This is good therapy for sluggish bowels.

* from Natural First Aid Remedies by James Kusick

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